If you're:

• Doing it out of fear or perceived social pressure
• Doing it in reaction to aggression or to minimize your anxiety
• Doing it to in pursuit of some outcome (excluding goals)

There's something up. Stop, feel, understand. Listen to your core, and find your center.

If you're:

• Doing it because its important to you, regardless of outcome
• Doing it because its for someone important to you, regardless of the traditionality of the relationship
• Doing it because it brings you closer to your goals

then God's speed.